Some relationships are so freakishly committed that both of the persons are okay with anything the other one asks them to do. At least they act like it. Seriously, I’ve heard of this, a lot. Sometimes the guy tells the girl what to do too much and other times it’s the other way around. I’ve heard of this couple from a friend of mine. The girl doesn’t allow the guy to have girl friends. I’m not talking about cheating on her. I'm talking about talking to girls as friends. How insecure does the girl have to feel to do that? She doesn’t even allow him to go to music shows, look at another girl, dress any way he wants to and stuff. And know what? He cheats on her on a daily basis, despite these facts. Well not exactly despite of the facts, more like because of it. They’ve been together for over 4 years now, and the dude hates her. Why shouldn’t he? It’s perfectly natural for him to cheat on her and stuff. I’m not saying that he should be forgiven and all. Am just asking to give the guy a break! Cut him some slack!
Most guys and girls do this because of their insecurity. This insecurity develops in them mostly because of their past relationships. If they were cheated in their past serious relationship or something, they tend to get all scared and sweaty over their current or next serious relationship. That’s natural too. But come on, their insecurity shouldn’t be a burden to their girl or guy they date. They should set up some limits and boundaries, but so do all people in relationships. Common rules like-
- No cheating
- The girl shouldn’t roam around wearing slutty stuff
- No flirting
- Loyalty
- Size shouldn’t matter [some guys might not agree]
are normal and acceptable. But not having friends of the opposite sex or not looking nice - and by nice I don’t mean dressing like a slut – are just shit rules. Locking them up in a cage will just make their partners feel like they are not trusted. Why shouldn’t they feel like it? It’s just like imprisoning innocents for things they didn’t even do. Why let these people’s insecurity get in the way of happiness?
Forbidding your guy or girl to do stuff out of your insecurity will just make you lose them.
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8 oριиιoиs:
ekimeehun gengulheynee eki hiyaalu dhoa?? do things da way thy want.. which mostly isn't fair...
i agree with u... da way u've written it is perfect :)
nyc post :)
interesting topic.. speaking of insecurity, dont' get me started.. some ppl fell sooo insecure... i guess u'd make a gud girl friend.. u seems quite understanding.. ;)
what you've said is correct
but the thing is, they are so so insecure that they can't see anything else other than that
and thats what makes people go crazy i guess
they are too narrow minded!
mind hulhuvan dhas kohdheynvee kanneynge! [thinking]
I agree with you. Fully trusting each other is important in relationships.
But in our Maldivian society, about 90% of the people are ones coming out of bad relationships. In other words they have had experience in what happens when you trust someone too much and to have your dreams n hopes crushed at the end.
So it's natural for them to feel insecure. If both of them understand that fact, I think they can work it out well instead of making rules.
I don't agree with the rules. It should be like a mutual understanding which both of them should know. They don't need to talk about it - they just should know it.
I totally agree with silverlite .. well thought!!! :)
hammett & silver- well some of them dont understand this. most girls, and guys think that its okay. seriously, trust me. i have seen this. so i think that they shud know this. and u shudnt trust ure partner 100 percent. 90 is fine.
angelica- thank u angelica. unfair world this is, isnt it
.mini-we totally should...people shouldnt be selfish.
yeah exactly! i wonder how these 'so-called' relationships survive for so long..*thinks*
the key to this, i think, is lack of understndin n communication..
its lyk 'ive told ya. dats it. period' system.
sheesh.
bubbletoes- yeah, most of the time the 2 persons involved arent too open with each other. they tend to keep all their feelings inside them. totally agreed.
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